So far we've learned that the wife is the husband's helper suitable, sex is a gift, and sex should be given whenever desired by either partner. Now what?
Make sex great!
First things first. Wives, you are designed to be your husbands helper (helper suitable, helpmeet). There are a variety of ways you do this, through encouragement, being a Proverbs 31 woman, clean home, good food, etc. In time, in this blog, I hope to cover all that and more.
So why did I start off with three straight posts on sex? It's pretty simple ladies. If you want to rearrange your life to be a proper submissive Christian homemaker, and become the helper suitable your husband NEEDS to fulfill his role as the head of household and preacher of the home... sex is a great place to start.
Why? Because if you want to become the wife God designed you to be, then you probably also want your man to be the husband God designed him to be. What better way to motivate him to lead his family in a Christian walk than to show him, right off the bat, of the benefit of a wife who walks that walk!
1 Peter 3:1
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives
Sex can be a great motivator for a man, because frankly, most men want it and want it often. For those husbands doing their best to fight the world and lead their families, having a wife at home who supports, encourages, and keeps him satisfied in bed can be the difference between his success, or failure. He's your leader! You want him to succeed!
If your husband is a non-believer, your walk is a difficult one, but unfortunately, Peter makes it clear that you must submit to a non-believing husband just as you would a believing one. We'll talk about this in future posts, but for now, show your husband you intend to walk as God intended, and let your actions speak.
How do you make sex better?
Remember that men are more visually stimulated than women. Keep your body attractive! Not only is your body God's temple, but exercise is an aphrodisiac. Get your body in to shape. Wear something your husband finds you sexy in, and if possible, run around in nothing at all once and awhile. Leave the lights on occasionally during sex. Show yourself off.
Try dancing for him (see Esther).
There is no verse in the bible that forbids oral sex. If your man likes it, do it. As we've learned already, the marriage bed is pure. The only "dirty" sex is adulterous or pre-marital sex. Remember that the bible says that if you look at another person and think about adultery, you've committed adultery in your heart. So, no pornography.
Be adventurous! Men love to try new things in bed. Make him feel sexy. Tell him you think he's sexy. Laugh. Play.... and maybe after really really great sex... Cry.
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